In his second book, Built to Love, Daniel J. McDonald explores the four dimensions of the heart, focusing on how to become, in his words, “built to love.” What motivates people to be kind? What motivates people to express love? What holds them back? Why do some people feel love for others but just don’t show it? Why do others act like they care when, inside, they really don’t care?
Just as the physical human heart has four chambers, the spiritual heart has four main dimensions, which are depicted in the following graphic:
Some human hearts neither feel nor show love for others. These are chamber one hearts. Other human hearts—those in the second chamber—do not genuinely feel love for others but, seeing the social utility and personal advantage that can be obtained from appearing to be kind, they act like they care. The third type of heart feels love for others but, for various reasons, does not show it. Chamber three people have hearts with the right intentions but their actions are incongruent with their motives. Chamber four hearts are hearts that have learned to feel and successfully express genuine love for others in a way that makes others feel loved and cared for. These people are the embodiment of love. They exude love. It is their essence. These are the people who are “built to love”
Drawing upon his own experiences with love’s power to alleviate suffering, modern scientific research, ancient scripture and the wisdom of the ages, McDonald, a lawyer by profession, makes his case for why and how you should become built to love. Built to Love elaborates upon each of these four dimensions, explains why ordinary people matter and how they can change the world while finding lasting happiness through small and simple things. If you are serious about living the second great commandment, as taught by Jesus, then Built to Love will be a helpful guide for your journey.